What characteristics REALLY define the standard of "attractive"?

I hear all the time what ISN'T attractive on a woman, and it usually consists of constructs that are used to define what is masculine. Let me give you an example: Last night, my husband and I ended up on the subject of his forearms and how they used to be bigger (refrain from the disgusting self-pleasure jokes here, please..lol)I mentioned that mine too used to be bigger, and was met with a rather displeasing response. "It's unattractive when a woman has big forearms. There are just certain things that look bad on a woman." I replied with "Yes, men become threatened with the idea that a woman could kick their ass, so their insecurity is what dictates a scale of attractiveness." Of course that was met with a disagreement in opinion. I say "Well think about it... What is attractive? Don't you think it's a relative term? To each his own sort of thing?" I guess my critical thinking scared him because he dismissed the argument completely. Heaven forbid we put critical thinking into...well... anything...

Now I'm going to address why comments like that are so disgusting to me, besides the blatant sexism that oozes from my husbands mouth oh so often. I never purposely tried to get my forearms big, they just were, I was active in sports and in life, not to mention I carried around OUR kids until they were able to walk (which adds insult to injury). I didn't lift weights and purposely try to make my forearms big, take steroids, (not that all weight-lifters do..I'm just trying to demonstrate the lack of willingness in achieving the muscular definition that I did at one time have)or do certain exercises in order to attain ANY sort of muscular structure I once had. I was living life with no real focus, let alone becoming a muscle bound freak... So what about other women like me who just so happen to be blessed in the arena of a good muscular structure, ones that instead of trying to be muscular try to achieve just the opposite but fail miserably thanks to their genetics. Men are never happy, women are either too fat, too thin, too muscular...but wait...never too weak.... hmmmmm.. I wonder why that is...could it be because they feel superior to a weaker being, and that is why women MUST be weak no matter what the genetic circumstances???? So women, if you are blessed with the genetics worthy of an oppositional force and wish to attract men, I highly suggest that you take the route of anorexia after all, once the fat is gone your body will be able to eat all that dreaded muscle, but beware your heart is a muscle too...you just may die in order to feed the need of the male to feel superior to you...

ARGHHHHH!!!! I almost wish he would've argued with me...but then again its best he didn't because any time logic is presented its met with you're wrong and I'm right and that's that... pshhhhhht...whatever...